Anger management techniques are plentiful. Cut to the core with this simple, yet powerful method that is so on-purpose. This comes from the mind of my nine-decades-plus-old mentor Mel Kaufmann. This morning he wrote me with this gem and gave me permission to share it with you.
Decide Not To
Do you become angry? Do you argue? It need not be. They are habits you have learned from birth. Anger and arguing are not in your DNA. If they were, you would be angry and arguing for the rest of eternity. I will prove to you that anger is a learned response. In high school my brother, Marvin, would kick the tires of our car, if it would not start. When Marvin was 92, I said to him, “You don’t seem to be angry anymore. What happened?” He said without equivocation, “I decided not to.” Mother Theresa was asked, “How can we have peace in the world?” Mother answered with great clarity and firmness, “Go home and start there.” If there is anger and arguing within the four walls of your home; take a lesson from my brother Marvin; decide not to. Stop your anger immediately. Stop it now!!! First of all, it is not Christian. Second of all, it causes separation in your family. If you don’t, your children will find love somewhere.
The thoughts of Mel Kaufmann
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”